When you're angry (and you have every right to be)

Anger is a fair response to loss and injustice. How to carry it.

You're allowed to be angry. Something was taken, and that is a real wrong. This isn't you overreacting. You don't have to talk yourself out of it.

The goal isn't to get rid of the anger. It's to carry it without it eating you or spilling onto people who don't deserve it.

Move it through your body. A hard walk, a run, anything physical. Anger is energy, and your body needs to burn some off.
Say it out loud to someone you trust. Naming it helps. Bottling it up does not.
Point it somewhere useful when you're ready. Rebuilding, showing up, advocacy. Anger can be fuel.
Give it time before you act on it. Anger cools, and choices made hot are usually ones we would take back.

Why this happens

Anger is a normal part of both grief and the body's response to threat, and it flares hardest when something feels unjust. It often sits right on top of fear and loss. The research points two clear ways: holding anger in and swallowing it is tied to feeling worse over time, and so is feeding it by replaying it again and again. What helps is the middle path. Let yourself feel it, move the energy, and aim it at something that matters.

Helping a kid through this? See Helping Kids.

If this feels like too much, you don't have to hold it alone. Call or text 988, or text HOME to 741741, any time. If you or someone else is in danger, call 911.